We had TPR the week before last and goodbye visit last week, so this isn't unexpected. I'd love feedback!
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... from school yesterday for her disruptive behavior. She is 6. I've never dealt with a child being sent home from school before, and hope I won't again. Here's what I did: 1. She came home, changed her clothes and then picked up all the dog poop in the yard 2. She organized all the movies we have (put them in the right cases and put them on the shelves the right way) 3. She cleaned the bathroom. Sink, tub, toilet and then the floor. By the time she finished, it was time for her theraoy appointment. I was there, but gave her no feedback other than, "please clean the sink better".
We had TPR the week before last and goodbye visit last week, so this isn't unexpected. I'd love feedback! |
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I just had to go double check that this was the same kid we were talking about who just started on Risperdal. My fd 7 last week,started on it last year.
Anyway, I have been called to get her from school several times. I would be curious how extreme your dd's behaviors were that they sent her home. My fd was completely out of control for more than an hour each time. She would scream, bite, kick, run, trash stuff, hide, etc. These were all behaviors that led up to the medications. The bipolar diagnosis helped me to get what had been going on. When there are things that I know will make her more vulnerable (such as yesterday was her one year anniversary of coming to live with us, leaving from a preadopt placement with two bio sibs) I notify the school and ask them to use kid gloves with her during that time period. I am currently having her assessed for additional services so that they will be held responsible for helping her get through rought times. Hopefully your dd got the picture that coming home from school will not mean fun time, and she will work harder at controlling behaviors, all though she has to be under a lot of strain from everything she is going through. Good Luck. |
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Yes, she is the same one who just started Risperdal. I didn't put that together, but the therapist did. I've left a message for the doctor. Waiting to hear what, if anything to do. We do finally have a big psych eval for her next week! I'm looking forward to that, hoping we can confirm her diagnosis and get her the help she needs!
We had the biting, the hitting, kicking, pinching, screaming, destroying things and total defiance. She was sent home from school for defiance (total refusal to do ANYTHING), temper tantrum, hiding, refusing to take her medication, and throwing an open milk across the cafeteria. |
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Sounds very familar. Refusal of meds, try having the meds chased by a candy (one starburt, skittles, whatever she really likes), it takes the edge off, mind goes to the prize for taking it with no issue, maybe only for the school dose. Does she take anything else with the Risperdal? My fd takes zoloft too. Good that your getting full evaluation. If you can calendar out traumas, you may get an idea of why she is more vulnerable at certain times. We also use Lavendar Oil. When she starts to shut down, I offer her a tissue with in on it, she covers her nose and mouth and just closes her eyes and breathes to regain control. Her teachers keep bottles in their desks, and she knows that she can go ask if she feels shaky. Lavendar is known for its calming effects.
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Great idea- I'll try out lavender this weekend!
Thanks! Boy, are you making me feel better! I appreciate it! |
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Were you aware that anger and violent behavior in a child, is often a sign that the child has been traumatized somewhere along the way. That giving psychiatric drugs to a trauma victim will often exacerbate the problem and often make them more violent?
Imagine giving psychiatric drugs to person who is drunk or high on drugs. What do you suppose psychiatric drugs will accomplish. Will they help or make thing worse. I recommend your child gets help for trauma related injuries. Possibly PTSD. Drugs do not cure trauma, trauma is a fear based fight or flight reaction. Read all you can about PTSD and specifically the work that Dr. Bruce Perry has been doing in child trauma. |
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My fd was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. These meds made the difference of her being able to stay in our home, as we were very close to disruption. She was under psychiatric care for more than a year before we tried these meds, and this was the only thing that helped her. She has been through major trauma, without question. Then again, most kids that are in fc have. It is not easy to get most docs to give these type of meds, and the bottom line test is, do they work. In our case, she can finally live and function normally, they were appropriate and desperately needed. The school cannot believe that this is the same kid. She no longer has violent outburts nor fanatical panic behaviors. She was the prime example of rapid cycling, and nearly had to be hospitalized before they finally agreed to try the Risperdal.
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Yes, my fd has had trauma in her life. She has been seeing a variety of professionals for this for nearly two years.
We are awaiting a diagnosis. We suspect bipolar. It is in her birth family. She has started on Risperdal and the change is amazing! No one can belive this is the same kid! We did unfortunately notice one big physical side effect last week, so she has been switched to seroquel. So far, all the positives are continuing! The growth in her school performance is overwhelming! And ALL positive! |
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I am very glad to hear that your success is continuing. Not many people can appreciate the hell that we have gone through to get our kids the help that they need. I have been told over and again that the best diagnosis in these matters is did the meds work, then they were in need and therefore must have what you have medicated them for. If you give an antibiotic, and get no results, you know that that was not the problem, right? Same thing here, only these meds are very specialized, and if you have a child who needs them and responds to them, I know where you have been, and it is a dark place, both for you and for them.
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4mykidz,
Yes, you can only appreciate the hell we live once you live it! I'm glad you are having success too! I'm not in general a big meds fan, but *wow* how this worked! It has made such a difference for her, for us, for our other kids, for the teachers, for her classmates, etc. It is SO worth it! We've made a difference for the ones we love! |
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We have recently been looking into and considering adopting fd's 4 yo brother. He was in an adoption placement for several months and they have finally given up. In all of my conversations with the adoptive parents, I am very sure they are/were up against the same thing. We are moving forward slowly, but have signed and intent letter and are going to start visits. We have already advocated for him to go into therapy and get phsciatric care through the same persons that are seeing fd. It has taken us over a year to bring her to this point, but we have learned so much, I believe that we may be able to bring her brother to this point of healing. Goes to tell you, that which does not kill you makes you stronger. Keep me updated on your little girl.
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I HAD to "brag" didn't I??? Oh well, two steps forward, one back- the risperdal gave my fd breast development (at age 6- NOT what you want) so we switched to seroquel last week. Things were just a little rougher at home, no big deal. School called yesterday- they are seeing behaviors revert to what we had in August and September. So now we've upped the dose and are trying to get back to where we shuould be...
I'm glad you can consider the placement of the bio sibling. At least you'll go in with your eyes open and know what road to try first. That is HUGE! My fd has a 4yo half sib in another placement. He's been steady there for two years- she has been in 13 placements in that time... |
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13 placements is awful, it is incredible that she is surviving. I thought fd was bad at 5. I did not know that Risperdal could have that type of side effect. I hope that they can balance out her meds soon. Have a happy Thanksgiving.
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We gave our ds 1 year in school. With year 2 (2nd grade) we laid down the law and said behave at school, or come home. Midway through 2nd we pulled him out. I have to say, it was drastic, but WELL worth it. We could work on behavior, attitude, etc. 24/7. It is tiring, but oh what a change. I would look to stay on her behavior steadily. If she is getting in trouble a lot, and if you can, consider homeshcooling.
Anne |
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