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Thanks for posting, bluewolf. I'm a single man and recently had two preschoolers placed with me. They've been in my home about a month. The boys are AA, and I am caucasian. Other than having spent two years with a highly indulgent, illiterate foster mother and three other young children with severely abusive backgrounds, they have no problems. Their delays seem, at this point, to be from a poor environment in foster care rather than anything organic or a history of abuse.

I've been reading this board for almost three years. It was about a year of reading before I decided to adopt. And I've spent a year and a half working with the state until placement. My apartment was 21' off of the ground rather than the required 20', which set me back several months and more money than I anticipated.

The women on this board have been amazing! It's in part because of them that I decided to adopt. And I'm grateful to have started with children who have so few problems in comparison to many of the others. I realy admire everyone here.

But it will be nice to interact with some other men who are doing the same thing. I won't stop reading the advice from the other threads, though. Amazing!

HLWII, @ preschoolers that hisa hand full! But there also at that age I bit were they look explore everthing in the house and have to se what you doing and wanting you see what they can do. And many boy that age play loud as well some make no sound but for the most boy at that age play loud.

But you do have them at the right to help get ont he right track .

Is you placement foster or are you going to adopt them?

And I bet you get the look when you tell people you their forstFather. Since their AA and your Cauc' But who care what other thinks what matter is if the boys love you and you be a the best Father or Foster Father for them. Some people say thet a Cauc' can take care an AA child and they are wrong. A Cauc' person can tech an AA child everthing there is to learn about AA history which the best part of AA cluture . Now it is still important form to have friends who are AA so they learn more about the AA culture.

Each state can ask of some thing many other wont ask. Like for example the state I am in you had to have 15lbs Fire Ex' but I could not find one, every one I found was 13.5-14lbs So I told the case worker and she went to look and she came and said oky you can have one of the small ones aslong has the FireDepartment was okay with it.

Yes the women on this have been very amazing and have been a great deal of help.

It's nice to see men that realize that they have nurturing to offer children. Even the teens that get adopted need the nurturing as much as the younger ones- as much as they need structure, discipline, etc...

One of the things that I've noticed (although I'm sure this will not resonate with everyone) is that overall there is a tendency in some folks to be most interested in a bio boy. Then when it comes to adoption some folks want to settle into a 'nice easy girl'. I agree that the teen boys in foster care get the short end of the stick.

Hi I am looking for information on adopting,I have wanted to start a family but its pretty hard when u are a single male, can anyone help me out

some of them were lost

Way to go!

Hi there,
i have been out of touch for quite awhile. Long story short, I have a son as of 4 months ago. Foster care system finally blessed me with a 3 year old perfect little guy! Anyway, here is the website for the Los Angeles-based group of gay fathers. I don't know where you are for sure, but maybe you can find resources to help you, or to help you in starting your own group:

www.popluckclub.org

Good luck