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Hello Marc, Well that is a tough one! Some might say that chances are that if he has not done any think then he may never do any thing! Some case workers might as part of the adoption steps have you go to a therapy meeting together or have you meet with his placement counselor to go over the issue. He him self may it was wrong and what happend to him was not his fluat. The is also a good point to keep in mind as well. You can tell him what every had happend to him in the past his not his fluat! My oldest god son had alot of things that were done to him by his own parents and they will not admit to people they did it. but saddly they did. If you do go a head and adopt him, the best things you can do are to still show him what is the right ways of love between an adult and child, parent and child. Also keep in mind if the case worker truely feels that he would be ok around younger childern not worry about to much. Also alot of times kids that have had that to happen to them in many cases can become very protective of kids, They will tend to take on a parent role. And will do their best to make sure no one will hurt that child the way they were hurt. Keep in mind even though he's gonna be 18 , he still needs to know that it's okay to be huged and be patted on the sholder. He will still need praises, to be able to be left him up to become a fine young man who will become a great man.
One of the things i always tell people all the time even teenagers need a family and need to be loved and a place to call home and know that they are welcomed there and are wanted.
So good luck and God Bless ya for wanting to adopt a teenage boy.
I am going to be adopting as well and have been told that i will get a teenager as well.

Tom