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        <title>Attachment &amp; Bonding</title>
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        <![CDATA[ The nuts, bolts, and nuances of attachment and bonding ]]>
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			<title><![CDATA[ sending kid to hostel ]]></title>
			<link>http://olderchildadoption.yuku.com/topic/1973/t/sending-kid-to-hostel.html</link>
			<description><![CDATA[ As we both of us are working so have very little time to spare with my only kid of 6 yrs old. This is affecting the study of my kid. Now we have decided to
send him to hostel, where he will be supervised by his teachers/wardens all around the time. Hostel and school both are good. Would it less his affection for
us? ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:26:04 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ interference of elders ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I feel that children living with their grandparents are more undisciplined. The reason is simple because they are favored even for the wrong deeds. Parents
feel helpless as they can&#39;t punish them because of interference of elders. How can we can this problem while living together? ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jul 2009 15:21:05 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ wilderness camp for bratty teen ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ My 17 yo RAD daughter has turned on me. Major attitude, lazy, insolent, knows it ALL. Has anyone had any experience with a wilderness camp? I think I can get her turned around but she needs some perspective. thanks, Stephanie in Nevada ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Fri, 29 Jun 2007 20:31:03 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Adoptive Father's Perspective ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Please check out this adoptive father's blog site:<br><br><!--EZCODE AUTOLINK START--><a href="http://bradadoption.blogspot.com/">bradadoption.blogspot.com/</a><!--EZCODE AUTOLINK END--> ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Wed, 20 Jun 2007 20:32:16 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ mild to moderate attachment issues ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I have such incredible repect for those of you with children with RAD-it's a thankless 24/7 job. God bless you for making a difference for these kids. My problem is not so severe, yet difficult and I don't know where to go for help, advice or support. My son Carlos was born in Guatemala and then passed from person to person, none of whom were very good parents. The last placement was very abusive. He mostly lived on the streets and fended for himself 9 years before he came to us. All that... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Thu, 07 Jun 2007 14:14:24 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ HELP! Grandparents Interfere ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I am wondering if anyone can direct me to a website where I can print off some information to give to our childrens &quot;grandparents&quot;. Years ago when my husband was in his 20's he did some construction work for a family and became close with them, especially the &quot;dad&quot;. I will call them 'Ned and Bev&quot;. This family has had their own children and many foster children through the years. We have become close to this family but still consider our own parents as Mom and Dad. Ned... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 24 Apr 2007 07:31:16 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Anyone experienced RAD family camp? ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ We are seriously looking into participating in a family RAD camp to promote attachment in our son. I am also interested to hear from families whose child had experienced abuse in the orphanage and how it went for them. And, to add to that, those whose spouse had not really bonded with the child and the camps effect on that. thanks, jeri ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Wed, 18 Apr 2007 04:29:01 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ &quot;Healing&quot; Success Rate ? ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I have read some &quot;success&quot; stories, in these posts, but also have read about many more parents still struggling for some &quot;normalcy&quot; with their kids. Does anyone want to venture a guess as to what percentages of &quot;hurt&quot; children CAN heal-and do heal, given treatment and lots of time ? <br><br>I am a new poster, and have posted on other forums as well. <br>We are considering adopting a 14 year old girl that we hosted for 5 weeks. During that time she was delightful,... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sun, 04 Mar 2007 09:41:04 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Just found out pre-adoptive daughter has RAD ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Hi,<br><br>My husband and I have been fostering to adopt a 6-year old girl. We were told by our caseworker that the child had separation anxiety. Before we agreed, we researched the subject and felt prepared to deal with it. She has been with us for one month now. Soon after she moved in, we started noticing many behaviorial issues. She is controlling, manipulative, mean to our 14 year old daughter, does not take direction, does not care if she gets in trouble, etc. I took her to her... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sat, 27 Jan 2007 08:50:17 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ differing opinions ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ We fostered a little boy for his first 23 mo. We worked this past yr. with the prospective adoptive parents, building a relationship between them and the child. When we transitioned him from our home 7 wks. ago, the agreement was for our family to back completely out of the child's life so he could attach with his new parents. Our youngest daughter got to play with him after 2 wks., with the rest of us (my 18 yr. old daughter - who was his 2nd caregiver - and my husband and I) to wait until... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Wed, 13 Dec 2006 23:03:02 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Respite/Therapist Suggestions ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Can anyone point us in the direction of a Respite provider and RAD therapist in the North Atlanta, GA area? I have a list of therapist but would like some recommendations before starting the trial/error method of searching.<br><br>THanks. ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 24 Oct 2006 04:41:12 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ New to forum/step-parenting similarities? ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ If this is like many other forums I've seen, everyone will turn heads at this post and go &quot;who is the newcomer&quot;? My name is Cinda and I'm interested in adopting an older child, domestic vs international adoption. My hubby is a disabled veteran who gets a big disability check, so both parents are at-home. I raised my niece when my sister showed zero maternal capabilities and have two stepsons who were 5 and 10 when I got married and are now 15 and 20. I do not expect parenting to be... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Fri, 13 Oct 2006 13:26:06 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ new parent ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I have recently adopted a child (just placed 2 months ago) from a disruption...originally from Guatemala at age 6, last adoptive mom couldn't handle her and sister fighting, etc...had health problems (breast CA diagnosis) and death of both her parents), decided to disrupt with J. (my daughter) but older adopted sib remains in home. J. (age 12) seems outwardly to be adjusting...no signs of grief, goes with the flow for the most part, etc. This concerns me because I think there would be some... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Tue, 19 Sep 2006 10:41:23 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Teacher Needs Help ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I am an Exceptional Education teacher in an elelmentary school. I have just gotten a little girl in my class who has RAD. Mom came in and talked to me about the different types of strategies that I need to to with her and explained the disorder to me. Now I didn't seem to understand something. Mom told me that I can not praise or reward her in any way. It will make her more defiant and possibly aggressive. This seems sort of strange to me since our program includes behavioral plans and... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Thu, 07 Sep 2006 18:25:05 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Help! ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Would appreciate any advice available. Our situation is a little unusual. We did not choose to adopt a child. It kind of chose us. We had a young man contact us that we had met on one occasion (3 yrs. prior). He asked us if we would watch his 7 yr. old son while he got help for his drug addiction. He said that he had no one else and he didn't want CPS to take him. We agreed. Little did we know then how it would affect our lives. To make a long story short, he did not get help, ended up in... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Wed, 06 Sep 2006 12:33:15 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ Should we or Shouldn't we ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ My name is Gena my husband and I are considering adopting a Girl who is 11 almost 12 and has been diagnosed as RAD. She has been in and out of Foster Homes since the age of 6. At the age of 9 was adopted along with 2 of her biological siblings into a family. The child was sexually abused at around the age of 3 to 4. She has many times since accused the men in a home of sexual abuse. When it all comes to an end she usually admits to lying about it. It has caused several of the family's a great... ]]></description>

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			<author>feeds@yuku.com (genagarman)</author>
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			<pubDate>Fri, 01 Sep 2006 10:54:59 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ RAD Research (Please help!) ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ Hi everyone...fellow RAD parent (Joye) here. I am a psychology student in my senior year. My experience as a RAD parent has driven me to pursue a doctorate in developmental psychology, with an emphasis in child pathology. I desperately hope to help find some solid answers and solutions for our RAD kids. <br> <br>That being said, I am conducting some research for a research paper. I have a hypothesis about a possible treatment for RAD, but I need to attend to the prelimenary steps of data... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Wed, 30 Aug 2006 11:39:10 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ New here but not new to this topic ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ I haven't been active on this site for years, no particular reason, but I've staying focused on the site specific to Russian adoptions. But I have always really enjoyed Susan Ward's writings. I have two daughters, adopted in Russia over 6 years ago. With the youngest it's been a solid attachment since the moment our eyes met. I know that many will doubt that that can happen, but in her case it did. And belive me, I know the difference...older daughter has been, at best, a negociated... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sun, 13 Aug 2006 16:21:46 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ i need help ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ We have 2 boys the oldest has RAD he is 12 and has been in therapy since the age of 4 we got him at 3. He is the master of manipulation. He does whatever he wants smears poop on the floor throws it out the window, lies, steals, and has everyone else thinking he is such an angel (allthough they won't take him). Everyone feels sorry for him. We have come so close to divorce over this child many times. There have been visits from the police, CPS, and lets not forget the calls from the school. We... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Mon, 31 Jul 2006 08:13:46 GMT</pubDate>
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			<title><![CDATA[ over my head ]]></title>
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			<description><![CDATA[ My husband and I adopted a 5 year old girl, internationally, almost a year ago. We thought that we'd have some sort of bond with her by now, but we don't. I hate her. I don't know what to do. We have a 3 year old as well that is so sweet and compassionate, also adopted, but when she was 11 months old. The 5 year old, Q, is making me nuts. I don't like anything about her. She definitely has RAD, she was put up for adoption at 3 1/2 then taken back by bio mom 6 months later, then back to foster... ]]></description>

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			<pubDate>Sun, 09 Jul 2006 13:32:59 GMT</pubDate>
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